what to do when your gf..

1. Is smarter than you

If you don't care or if it turns you on, then it's not a problem. But if you're like any other guy, then you should work harder & be smarter than her. It's scientifically proven that men is smarter than women. Work harder, pay more attention & think critically. Don't let her know you're trying. Safest way around this never get a smarter gf than you.

2. Is wealthier than you

1st ever rule. Don't ever borrow money from her, & don't ever let her pay anything for you. Go dutch on everything. No matter how nice she may be, intentionally or unintentionally, she'll bring up the fact that you're taking money from her. Always remember to bring extra cash in your wallet to avoid borrowing money from her in any situation.

3. Is more religious than you

Once in a while, quote a fatwa or something. Act smart. Don't do anything that makes u fall under the sinful category. Be a good person, for you & for her.

4. Knows more about a particular matter than you

Unless it's a girl's topic like shoes or shopping, avoid the topic. It's no fun when she goes on & on about something & you don't understand what she's saying & don't have anything to say. Later you go back & read up on your own. Google it, ask your guy friends or do some book research. There's no harm in learning new stuff, you wont know when it'll come in handy.

5. Is trying to console you after being a bitch

Don't give in so easily. She wont, why should you. If you're not hurting then immediately stop, no use prolonging the fight, don't stoop to their level. But if you are hurting still, even if she cries buckets full of tears, take all the time you need. But don't ignore her, just give her the one word reply treatment. If she loves you, she'll be patient enough to wait it out, if she doesn't then you can reconsider your relationship.

6. Gf's family doesn't like you

She'll be all supportive and tell you that her family will like you eventually. This may be true. But even when that happens, you will still have the feeling that their still pretending to like you, no matter how long your relationship goes. Don't try to hard for her family, that's like pretending someone you're not, if they can't accept who you are, so be it.

7. Is not approved by your parents

If you love your family, break up. If you don't, then you can still be with her. But being with someone against your parent's blessings will never work, & somehow, you wont be happy. Always do your best to please your parents, never otherwise.

8. Want's you to sacrifice your future for her convenience

If this happened more than once then it is most recommended to break up. Even if you explain it to her, the fact that she initially puts her convenience over something as important as your future shows that she's not the one for you. Yes she may love you, but true love requires sacrifice, not just form your part.

9. Is friends with the bane of your existence

Tell her truthfully that you hate that person & the reason. If she still wants to be friends with the person, let her. It's her freedom to be friends with whoever she wants, as do you. But make it clear to her that you don't want anything to do with that person & don't want the 3 of you to meet under any circumstances. Remind her that you hate the person & whenever you hear shit about the person, make sure you tell her.

10. Is the jealous type

If you love her, then stop flirting around. That should be enough if she's an understanding person. But unfortunately this is never so. She'll demand you not to see new people, people she sees as threats & people that she thinks you might like. This however is unreasonable & reasonable at the same time, depending on the situation. So unless it is important, try your best to avoid these people. Don't go and start a conversation or anything like that. & if she's a terribly jealous type, only smile form a distance & don't let her see you do it.

Family Evolution

I love my family. I have my dad, my mum & 5 younger siblings. Theyre not perfect, but thats what makes them MY family. My family went through a few phases of change throughout the years. Some for better, some for worse. During the course of my childhood, I watched as my family grew from only me to all 6 of us. It wasnt luxurious or extravagant but it was just as awesome. I left the house to study when I was 19 & went to Shah Alam.

During this time, my family when through a series of changes so fast, that I couldnt change with them. Ive been myself when I was 19, a little different here and there, but the 19 year old adam is still here. But my family, sigh.. They were.. Different.

Doing things that we dont usually do.

Going places we dont usually go.

Things that wasnt akward before became akward.

Things that would have been awkward before, became normal.

Do's and dont's shifted places.

Secrets became public, and things that we usually share, we dont.

And the list goes on. I know that change is inevitable, but I wished that I could change with them. But I cant. When I left the house, I remained who I was. And I made a subconscious oath to myself not to compromise who I am. After a few more years outside of the house, I came to accept the changes in my family, because even with so much of drastic changes, I can still see the family I knew when I was 19.

Currently, I'm thousands of miles away from home. I think about my family all the time, with the vague memories of my family the last time I saw them and the vivid memory of my family when I was young. Probably because the family we grew up with is always more pure and innocent. Once we grow up, we learn that things arent just rainbows and butterflies.

With calls I keep in touch with my parent, with facebook, I keep in touch with my siblings. Today, I saw photos of my mum, oldest sister, and youngest brother having lunch. The people in the photos looked just like how my childhood family would have looked, but they werent those people. They were my new family. I can see clearly the differences.

1. my family doesnt own a digital camera, my parents were so against it

2. we, the kids, dont go facebook all the time, were limited to the internet on weekends

3. we never eat out, except to fastfood joints 8 times a year or when we travel

4. we would always go as a family, and pack for those who couldnt come

5. mum was so against outside food that we werent allowed to have any

All this seemed so ancient now, now my sis posts pictures of just the 3 of them eating outside food, and its normal. Im out of words to explain how this feels. Sigh.. I only hope that even though Im the same like I was before, they would still love me. Theyre the only family I have.

Hated Anat Topics Award (HATA):

I hate them for many reasons. Some because it was an SDL topic, some because it wasn't presented well the first time I heard about it, some I just hate because I can't understand anything even after hours of inquiring and studying. & the awards goes to:

1. Hippocampus & fornix - If fornix is just a freakin layer then why do they label the whole tube as fornix??

2. Extra ocular muscles - PBL topic. Superior & inferior oblique winds around 1/2 the world b4 inserting anywhere.

3. Limbic system - Dunno what it is actually, or even what's its for. Where does olfaction fit anywhere in emotions?

4. Cerebellum - Anat's Archicerebellum, Neocerebellum & Paleocerebellum VERSUS Physio's Spinocerebellum, Vestibulocerebellum & Cerebrocerebellum. Same, but different. Why cant they just choose different names?

5. Thyroid arteries - They run with laryngeal nerves, which runs with laryngeal nerves in the pharynx. So they actually take turns? Wow. Hot stuff.

6. Spinal cord tracts - Never the same diagram in any 2 books. Everyone has their own different story. Aren't people's spinal cord the same?

7. 4th ventricle - Velum? Ependyma? Tela choroidea? Pudencle? And half of it I never seen before.

8. Cerebrum - Sulci & Gyri. Guess im no neurosurgeon. Axial sulcus vs Operculated sulcus?

9. Lateral Ventricle - If only the 1st time I heard it, the person would AT LEAST TELL ME WHAT IT IS 1ST.

10. Hypothalamus - So many nuclei divided by fornix?

11. Blood supply of brain - They seriously expect us to know the cortical course of it? I seriously think area of distribution is more important.

12. Cranial nerves - Wow, the diagram drawn was so GIGANTIC that a person standing 60meters away could read it. NOT. 60cm then yes. Nicely done. At least TALK SLOWER.

UNIS DAH DEKAT!!

enough said.

Where the Lost Things Go

Naziera told me of a story, about a girl who always loses her things. And one day she goes to the place 'where all the lost things go' & find that all her things are there.

Ive lost so many things within the past one year. Which is weird, cz i seldom lose things in the past. I do lose a few things once in awhile, but now it's happening more frequently. The saddest part is, the things missing are always things of great sentimental value.

Some of the important things were,

1. My Levis Jeans. 2000 rps, about rm200. The most expensive apparel I have ever bought, owned, and wore. It wasnt just the most expensive, it also had great sentimental value. I bought the jeans with Naziera in Levis, on the way to udpi. The particular design was promoted by Abishek Bachan if Im not mistaken. What a waste. Lost since September 2010.

2. My Nike badminton shoes. It was my favourite pair of shoes. It was green and grey, with white lace. I loved it so much. I think it went lost during the hectic shift from Malaysia to India. I think the saddest thing is that, eventhough I wore it all the time, I never played badminton wearing it. Lost since March 2010.

3. My Polo wrist watch. Greatest sentimental item I had. It was a gift from dad during my internship days. Dad always bought my watches & shoes. Thats like our thing. Shoes come and go, but watches stay longer. I lost it when I was in Perdana. Did someone steal it? I doubt it's worth that much, but it meant alot to me. Lost since December 09.

4. My Blue & Pink Converse shoes. I had a phase where I wore only Converse shoes. & I had 3 pairs of them. A Blue, Red & Pink one. In the end, Im left with the Red one. Good thing thats my favourite one. Both shoes, lost around the same time, since September 09.

5. My Diesel army pants. They werent exactly army pants, but they are comfortable. & they had tremendous amount of memories on them. But, my sweetheart knows how much I loved the pants that she bought me a new army pants from India! Yay! I never found out what happened to it. Lost since September 2010.

6. My Yellow Lego pendrive. At that time, a 1G pendrive was rm35, & Iv asked Nadiah's sister to buy me one. It was nice. I switched the cover with Iza, so it has a purple cover. It was small & cute. I always thought that the pendrive was in my bag. When I checked, it wasnt. Lost since 2008.

7. My Green Kingston pendrive. After I lost the Lego pendrive. I replaced it with a 2G Kingston that I bought form Low Yatt. At that time, a 2G pendrive as rm22. I had to go through alot of hurt & trouble to get it. & this is where I met the rudest shopkeeper ever in my life. Who? A malay girl wearing a tudung. After that, the view that girls with tudung doesnt necessarily means a good girl was cemented in my mind. I lost the pendrive when I left it at Mahe printing pc. It had Up inside of it, thats why someone took it I think. Sigh.. Lost since July 2010.

Since Im talking about lost things, some other things came to mind. Not recently, but things that Ive lost over the years.

1. My 2nd pair of glasses. I wore them to the river, back in my kampung. Dad told me once that I can hang my specs on my shirt while taking wudhu. I didnt realize this only applies when youre facing foward, so when I faced down, my specs fell & it was straight away swept by the current. It took a few days for me to get a new one, and it was the longest time I didnt wear any specs. Lost since 1997.

2. My Blastoise and Poliwrath. Both from base set 2 edition. I borrowed them to Harris, with faith in him to take good care of my cards. Jagdeep, who came to watch, stole them. Eventhough that was probably what happened, I can never prove that he stole it, & I never saw my cards again. I will forever despise him for it. Lost since 2001.

3. When I was small, I always lose stationary. Its normal being a kid and all. But once, my dad just bought a new box of coloured pencils. Take note that those were my most favourite sationary back then, still is actually. Nwy, the day after my dad gave me, I put it in my pocket, & ran from the Music room to my classroom. It dropped on the way. I retraced my steps so many times, I guess someone took it. Lost since 1996.

Sigh.. After seeing the list, I think I have to rephrase when I said I seldom lose things. I guess I do lose things often. Well, better to lose things than losing your mind. LOL.